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Relationships

Girl on a train.

The journey started a long time ago.

I am one of the “late bloomers”. It has taken me a long time to learn the lessons I needed to learn. All trial and error. Positive and negative. You can’t blame yourself for things you did not know. Or how long it takes to figure things out. I wanted to believe that all people are good and mean well. Which isn’t always the case. People are not always self aware or have behavior they are comfortable with but may be offensive to others. You have to carefully evaluate each step you take once the lessons are learned. “Think ahead”.

I grew up in a poor household with non-English speaking parents and a large amount of traditions that we had to abide by. We did not totally understand these traditions but adhered to them. What would we know!

How we grew up has a large impact on how we see life and maneuver around it. This is what shapes our lives and decisions (good or bad).

We are unique individuals. We have to form our own opinions and find our own happiness. Parents may mean well but they are not us.

I was the middle kid. I was told that I should be a secretary, get married and have lots of kids. I became a secretary and got married in my 20s. My family was happy for me. I divorced after 20 years of marriage and only had one kid. My parents did not support me or help me in any way. So, I lived alone far away from my birth home. I wished I made different decisions and followed my own counsel. I stayed married too long to a person who was not trustworthy. I wanted to believe he was a good person. But the signs were there.

( I should have picked up the untrustworthy signs earlier in my marriage and did something about it. Would you agree?)